Success Story: Tom Couldn’t Believe How Much Shelia Changed After Therapy Sep 25, 2021

Shelia came for therapy at the urging of her husband, Tom. Tom had received counselling himself in the past, which helped him enormously.

Tom was not getting his needs for closeness met in his relationship with Shelia. He reported that she was “closed off.”

After years of dealing with his frustrations with Shelia, Tom wanted to feel more connected to her. He was even bringing up the “divorce” word.

Shelia attended weekly therapy sessions with me and reported that she looked forward to them each week. She was committed to working on herself and overcoming her obstacles to being intimate with Tom.

As we worked together in therapy, Shelia came to understand how she feared men due to her relationship with her father. He was extremely critical of her as a child and continued to be that way throughout her adult life.

I helped Shelia understand and heal from her troubled relationship with her father. Shelia began to stand up to her father for the first time in her life and was proud of herself.

In time, Shelia noticed that she became more outgoing and was feeling happier.

She started going out more with friends and said she felt “lighter” and less anxious. In the past, she felt like she was stuck in a closet. Now, she felt like the world was opening up to her.

After several months of therapy, Shelia and Tom attended a session together. Tom could not believe the changes Shelia had made. He reported that Shelia had finally “let him in,” and that they had never been as close as they are now.

They said that they have fewer arguments and were resolving the ones they did have. Shelia was more affectionate with Tom, and their sex life was better than ever.

Shelia ended therapy stating that her life and relationship were beyond anything she could have hoped for.